15 Sep W4 | Be A Peacemaker

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REFERENCE BIBLE VERSES

Matthew 5:9 |Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. (NIV)

OBJECTIVE

Monthly Theme: Excellence in Relationship

  • To understand that excellence in relationships is not about avoiding problems but about being brave enough to address them with God’s love. Jesus calls us to be peacemakers, not just peacekeepers.
  • Peacekeepers avoid conflict at all costs. They stay quiet, pretend nothing is wrong, and hope the tension disappears.
  • Peacemakers step into conflict with wisdom and courage, bringing God’s truth, restoring relationships, and creating lasting peace.

CONTENT

THE STORY OF ABIGAIL IN 1 SAMUEL 25

Conflict is unavoidable in relationships—whether in families, workplaces, friendships, or even in church. How do we respond when conflicts come? In 1 Samuel 25, Abigail shows us that peacemakers are not passive people who simply avoid conflict, but those who actively step in with wisdom and humility, and seek reconciliation instead of victory when conflicts arise. 

PEACEMAKERS ACT WITH WISDOM AND HUMILITY

  • When David, full of anger, set out to destroy Nabal’s household, Abigail stepped in and took the matters into her hands. When she heard of the danger, she did not rush blindly or speak recklessly. Instead, she acted wisely—preparing provisions for David and approaching him with respect (verse 18). She bowed low before him, spoke gently, and even took blame upon herself to calm his anger (verse 23). This was not weakness but strength wrapped in humility.
  • So often, when we face conflict, our first reaction is pride—defending ourselves, proving our point, or fighting back. But Abigail shows us another way. She reminds us that true wisdom comes when we lay down our pride and clothe ourselves in humility. Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Abigail’s humility opened the door for peace where pride would have led to destruction.

PEACEMAKERS SEEK RECONCILIATION, NOT VICTORY

  • Abigail’s goal was not to win an argument or prove that Nabal was wrong. She wasn’t trying to defeat David either. Her heart was focused on reconciliation—restoring peace between David and her household, and reminding David of his greater calling. She pointed him back to God’s promises, urging him not to shed blood in anger but to let God fight his battles (verse 25).
  • This is the true heart of a peacemaker: not to conquer the other side, but to bring both sides closer to God’s truth and love. When we seek reconciliation instead of victory, we let go of our need to “win” and instead open the way for God to heal what is broken. Romans 12:18 says, “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” Abigail lived this out beautifully.

CONCLUSION

In our daily lives, being a peacemaker is not easy. In our relationships, we should not just be peacekeepers who just want to prevent a fight, but we should be people who step in with wisdom, humility, and a heart for reconciliation when there are conflicts. When we choose this path, we reflect the heart of Christ, the greatest Peacemaker, who reconciled us to God through the cross.

REFLECTION/DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

  • When faced with conflict, do you usually react more like a peacekeeper or a peacemaker? What is preventing you to be a peacemaker - fear, pride, comfort?
  • Is there a conflict that you are facing right now that requires you to be a peacemaker? How can you bring reconciliation to this conflict?

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